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THIS IS SOOOOOOO GOOOOOOD AND I FEEL ALL OF THESE THINGS

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Thank yoooou! It's good to know it's not just me.

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Finally had time to read this and loved it!!!! Feel this so so much: “So much of what I find hot in the visible queerness I see around me is not what actually works for me, in my own body.” Hashtag femme problems. Beautiful reflections friend!

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Thank you!!! We need the easily identifiable queerness, but we need to see all the other queerness that exists too. It's both a benefit and drawback that a corner of my brain just assumes all femmes are queer when I see one, but that's just selfish hopefulness on my part.

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Jul 25Liked by Iris Rankin

So much yes. Big love to you in sharing yourself with us here and simply existing. Your bit on gender euphoria reminded me of a joke some fellow trans friends and I have: when you are euphoric as hell you hear 'gender trumpets' or when it's just a sprinkle, it's more of a 'gender triangle' or [insert any other instrument here].

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The gender triangle! Haha, yes I love that (also because for some reason the triangle seems like a deeply queer instrument).

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thank you for saying so many things that I have thought but not put into words, and so many things that I truly did need to hear.

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Thank you for saying so! So many of these are such inner thoughts that can be hard to articulate sometimes, so it means a lot that this landed.

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Had many big feelings reading this 🩶

Also anyone not reading one of your all beige outfit as gay is not paying attention!! The straights could never.

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Thank you for always seeing me in my beige queerness. ✨

I’m really glad that it resonated with you too! Even though I think it shows up in all of these specific ways, I had a feeling I’m not the only one.

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